Finding Your Place in Love

Every relationship goes through it’s own share of issues.  Some big, some small; some minute, and some major.  Some of these issues may be inconsequential, and some of these issues may actually be legitimate problems that need examining.  You may ask yourself if this relationship is worth the hassle or worth the effort.  You may consult friends and family but the truth is that you  and only you hold the  answer.

Finding Your Place in Love

So before you begin your series of q&a’s, turn up those feelings of inadequacy or switch on some outright anger, try first doing some introspection.  But in order to accomplish this you have to be able to ask the hard questions and be willing to accept the answers you find.

To begin the process you must ask yourself three important questions:

1. What sort of relationship am I seeking?What do I need in a mate?

Are you looking to simply have fun and enjoy the dating scene with no commitments, or are you looking for a life partner?

2. What about myself do I seek to change, alter or improve upon in order to become the best me I can be?

If you deal with issues of insecurity, how can you become more confident? If you recognize you have a penchant for arguments, how can you control your temper? If you know you fall for the wrong one constantly, what are you lacking?  Remember, you attract you exude.

The third question is extremely important and allows you to create boundaries for yourself to minimize hurt and navigate through your relationship based on your self-worth….(Drum roll)

3. What are you willing to accept or NOT accept from your mate?

Now this is tricky because there is the tendency in all of us to sweep things under the rug and ignore the “small things”. That’s simply not a sustainable way to operate in a relationship.  You must define what you will allow in your life and what you must filter out. No one but you can define your value and when you allow others to dictate their actions toward you they determine your value.

So as you venture forward in your current relationship, or are on the path to another, take the time to evaluate your entire situation, determine your worth and ensure your mate is willing to pay.

Remember “You can always expect what you accept.” -Ms Dare I Say askmsdareisay@gmail.com